Dushka Zapata: "Why do people [sometimes] choose not to listen?"
Because I am not interested.
Because I am self-absorbed.
Because I have already decided that I am right.
Because I already know that I am wrong.
Because what I am hearing is not what I want to hear.
Because I am trying but am easily distracted.
Because your words seem encrypted and it's too hard to decode them.
Because it doesn't matter.
Because your perspective is toxic and I don't want to let it in.
Because I've already decided.
Because you don't understand me and this drowns out everything.
Because you tell but you never ask.
Because I've already concluded it's your fault.
Because I'm worried it's my fault and need to work this out on my
own.
Because I can't hear you over the noise inside my head.
Because I don't trust you.
Because I think I'm listening and can't tell that I am not.
Because I have other things to do.
Because I really don't want your words to hurt me.
Because look. I want to show you who I am.
Because I'm tired and my ears are already so full of words.
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Dushka Zapata, August 11, 2017
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https://www.quora.com/Why-do-people-choose-not-to-listen/answer/Dushka-Zapata
Dushka Zapata has published
three (3) books so far, in kindle and
paperback formats: https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=dushka+zapata
I have the first one, How
To Be Ferociously Happy and
other essays (Volume 1), December 3, 2016. I recommend it.
Also, in the past starting last year I have cited several other short pieces that Dushka Zapata has written at
Quora.
You might want to see https://larryatblogspot.blogspot.com/search?q=zapata
for at least some of them, the ones that have made to to my archive
so far.
love to all,
Larry